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It's been forcing me to consider things I never thought I'd have to consider.I'm really upset about all the time and energy I spent on this thing only to not end up with anyone, and as silly as it may sound to some people, I actually feel hurt inside for all the times I was ignored or the times I tried to keep a conversation going and the girl just stopped without warning.I never thought OLD could be anything that could hurt me, but it's really hurt me inside. I just want to know how can I rebuild my confidence, self-esteem and sense of self-worth after online dating and come out a better man at the end. I remember a long time ago when I signed up for Plenty of Fish, I was bombed with messages in my inbox within ten minutes of posting my profile.Girls often just get overwhelmed by the communications they receive. my feeling about online dating is that your chances of finding a quality person to date are no greater online than they are out in the world. But it also taught me a lot about not taking things personally.
I'm really upset about all the time and energy I spent on this thing only to not end up with anyone, and as silly as it may sound to some people, I actually feel hurt inside for all the times I was ignored or the times I tried to keep a conversation going and the girl just stopped without warning. When you get knocked down, you have to get back up. But you have no idea why a lot of those women stopped talking to you. Don't waste time trying to analyze it anymore or trying to re-construct your profile anymore.
Chances are, you would develop a fantasy of who she is based on her online/email persona.
Then, 9 times out of 10, you meet the person and you are like, "WTF????
Another dude who used to post on here (who's apparently a really successful veteran online dater) gave me this format. You come off as ______, ______, and maybe a little bit ______. I can also really appreciate anyone who's into _______; I'm into _______ as well. The next 3 are non-sexual compliments that come to my mind when I read her profile. The best thing I can suggest is that you need to not take it personally, and I think it is possible to do that retrospectively.
(2 or 3 improvised sentences here) Anyway, I think we'd really enjoy learning a little more about each other, so let me know if you want to chat some more. You don't need to take it personally that some women were too busy that week to bother reading any of their emails (some women I've talked to who use online dating sometimes have weeks where they just log in and delete all messages without even reading them or looking at the photos because, for example, they just don't feel like going on a date next week).
You don't need to take it personally that some women want personalised messages when you send a generic one, or the other way around. I know you said you're not looking for hate or ridicule, so I hope you take my post as I intend it, to help a little bit.