How to handle dating a busy man
You may love him as he already is, and that’s great.But don’t bother trying to tell him to calm down or reduce his sights by telling him he doesn’t need to achieve.If he’s highly ambitious, there’s little you can say will deter him from his pursuit. The idea that ambitious men only like dependent or submissive women doesn’t bear out.The important thing is to make sure you can live with this kind of driven person. You being strong and determined in your own life is going to be sexy to him.Encourage his abilities and even suggest at times that he’s underselling himself.He wants you to be his biggest fan and the best coach he could ask for.He is going to want to give you the same support that he gets from you: the best couples are able to feed off of each other’s energy and drive each other further.Him seeing you prioritise your own plans is going to reassure him that you’re independent and make you more intriguing.
Just because he seems certain and headstrong, he still needs someone to push him to keep chasing after what he wants.
Just don’t forget to spend time cuddling and eating pizza at least one night a week.
Don’t play the eternal Devil’s Advocate and explain all the possible ways he could fail.
Every ambitious guy wants that feeling Jack Nicholson had in the film , when he tells Helen Hunt “You make me want to be a better man”.
This isn’t about loving a guy for who he could be, it’s about loving him for that part of him that wants to aspire to more than he is.
Assume he will always be the man he is now, and invest from that basis.